Have you Been Told That you Think Too Much?

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 Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity. It’s self-conscious, and anything self-conscious is lousy. You can’t try to do things. You simply must do things.

 – Ray Bradbury

Is This Not a Good Time For You? Here's Some Help Figuring out Why

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How do you correct negative feelings?

This is such a seemingly simple question.  How you feel is how you feel.  Perception is reality.  Many times I find that when I sit down and get real quiet... real honest with a situation I am able to get at the heart of the matter.   

Pay attention to when you are having these negative feelings.  Pay attention to the people around you, the setting, your mood, the time of year, the day of the week, morning vs evening.   

Really look at the situation like you are an investigative reporter.  

 What do you realize about the situation?

Place those awarenesses against other situations that are causing you incredible stress.

  You may find some simple ways to shift the way you are approaching these types of situations.   

For me if I have am especially difficult week at work,  I simply cannot commit to a social outing until I have some quiet time.  I am simply unable to engage in the situations like this  without feeling extremely depleted.  

 That is a difficult line to draw: self care the way I need to experience it vs the societal norm which is to be ready to socialize at a moment's notice.

ACTION MOMENT:

What are some realizations that you are having from this exercise?  What realities do you need to acknowledge about your self care?

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That Constant Search For Someone to Validate You

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Who Doesn't Admire Someone Who Is Curious?

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 Curiosity about life in all of its aspects, I think, is still the secret of great creative people

 – Leo Burnett

So Do you Really Need MORE Information Before you Make that Decision?

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what is true vs what feels true

Tommy Newberry defines feelings as "data you must filter through your reason."

What happens when your way of reasoning is misaligned?  

Think about it this way: 

Are there certain things you used to believe to be true as a child that you no longer believe?  What changed?

  You had access to more information. Other people have different experiences than you shaping them and causing them to form different opinions, have different outcomes in their lives.  You begin to widen the view of your feelings.  Possibly noticing how they can control you... give you misinformation. 

Action Moment:

Is there a decision you need to make that your feelings are not lining up with?  

Where are you experiencing the discontent? 

Is there a story that you are choosing to tell yourself?  Is there new information that has come your way that you have turned a blind eye to?

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Tell Me About Your Fears... You have Some Don't You?

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Tell me your fears

Have you thought about your fears lately.  What really hinders you from changing something in your life or leaving a situation that is destructive or moving into a new thing that you have been wanting to do.  Moving toward the place you have been meaning to go.  

Many times our choices are draped in fear.  We can agree that fear will always be with us, right?  But I wonder if the same fears that drive you today are the ones that drove you 1 year ago? 5 years ago? 

ACTION MOMENT: 

 Take some time over the next few days and really process this:

  Do your fears have a common theme? 

 Have they evolved over the years?

  Do you see any progression in the fears you face today vs a year ago? 

 Do they revolve around a particular person's expectations of you?

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It's What you Do With your Mistakes that Matter

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Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.
 – Scott Adams

What if You Run Out of Ideas

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 “You can’t use up creativity. 
The more you use, 
the more you have.” 

— Maya Angelou

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Why Exactly Must You Have Limits on your Creativity

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 “A truly creative person 
rids him or herself 
of all
 self-imposed limitations.” 

— Gerald G. Jampolsky

Reaping and Sowing in your Thinking

Reaping and Sowing

I remember an episode of  a show called Little House on the Prairie where a father was reprimanding his daughter for something she had done and he said these words, YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.  Later in life when I read the verse in the bible my mind immediately flashed back to this memory and all I could think was how careful I needed to be because all my bad decisions will come back and get me.

Many times that is true of course though thank God that He has extended to me tons of grace where that is not always the case.  I started thinking that maybe just maybe good things sown will reap good benefits and what if I extend that realization to good thoughts leading to positive outcomes.  Maybe there is something to be said about making a shift mentally first which might elicit a subsequent change in the outcome I will experience later. 

I find this to be true when I have facing a difficult task that needs to be done which I know will be a benefit to future opportunities that come my way.  

Action Moment: 

This week bring the reaping and sowing philosophy into one area in your life which you are experiencing frustration.   Take a moment to really pay attention to all the thoughts surrounding the situation including feelings of helplessness and despair.  Decide on one or two little adjustments in your perspective on how to handle the circumstance.

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Irresistible YOU

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What makes someone irresistible?

Really take some time to think about this and come up with 4 or 5 characteristics of this person.   

Here is what I see:

a quite confidence

a sense of peace

comfort in their own skin

grace under pressure

What I find about my list is that this is not something you necessarily pick up on immediately.  You have got to spend a little time with someone in order to really gauge these any genuine qualities.  There needs to be a relationship.  Some people can initially come across as confident but you find later on that there are some contradicting qualities that rise to the surface like insecurity.  Someone so polished on the outside can really be hanging on by a thread in their life when it comes to decisions they need to make but are afraid to step into.

Action Moment:

What about you makes you feel irresistible?  What qualities would you like to cultivate more to ground you into your most irresistible

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So What Is It That is Exciting you Right Now

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 “Truly creative people 
care a little about what they have done,
 and a lot about what they are doing. 
Their driving focus
 is the life force 
that surges in them now.”

 — Alan Cohen

Show Me What You Got

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 “Held in the palms of thousands
 of disgruntled people over the centuries 
have been ideas worth millions
 – if they only
 had taken the first step
 and then followed through.” 

– Robert M. Hayes

Where is All That Despair Coming From?

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Where does the sense of lack in your life come from?  

I am a list maker.  You can always find me putting together a list of pros and cons when I have to make a tough decision.  I got to thinking about how grounded I feel when I take the time to do that.  I wonder if maybe this might be a valuable practice to put in place when I feel discontent showing up in my overall outlook on life.  

ACTION MOMENT:

Take the time to really gauge where the sense of despair is coming from.  Is it from your health? your job? your relationships? your friendships?  In the midst of taking the time to do this you will also recognize the areas that are quite good right now and it might offer a sense of empowerment for the tough choices you need to make.

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You Have This Nagging Feeling That There is Something More To Life

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Examine What is Holding You Back

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“The difficulty lies not so much 
in developing new ideas 
as in 
escaping from old ones.” 

— John Maynard Keynes

What Are Your Thoughts Telling You?

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Do you have mental discipline? Meaning do you allow every thought that comes into your head run rampant without some sort of censoring process?  

If these thoughts were not censored, what kind of feelings did they manifest?

Hope?

Courage?

Fear?

Anxiety?

Peace?

Take some time today to really pay attention to your thoughts.   

Do they leave you feeling hopeless?

Did they inspire to act on new ideas?

Fill you with gratitude? 

It is amazing how powerful these little silent opinions about your life can be.  Left unchecked, they can be dream killers.   

How do you take thought captive?  You hold it up to the light of reality and assess whether it is grounded in any basis of fact.  Is it true or is this something someone has placed on me?  Possibility it is a limiting thought that I am placing on myself as a safety net to resist change.

ACTION MOMENT:

Really pay attention today to the feelings your thoughts bring up and how they may be dictating the quality of your life.

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Are you Feeling That Emptiness From Deep Inside Tugging At You?

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