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This is such a seemingly simple question.How you feel is how you feel.Perception is reality.Many times I find that when I sit down and
get real quiet... real honest with a situation I am able to get at the heart of
Pay attention to when you
are having these negative feelings.Pay
attention to the people around you, the setting, your mood, the time of year, the day of
the week, morning vs evening.
at the situation like you are an investigative reporter.
What do you realize about the
Place those awarenesses against other situations that are causing
you incredible stress.
You may find some
simple ways to shift the way you are approaching these types of situations.
For me if I have am especially difficult week
at work, I simply cannot commit to a social outing until I have some quiet time.I am simply unable to engage in the situations like this
without feeling extremely depleted.
is a difficult line to draw: self care the way I need to experience it vs the
societal norm which is to be ready to socialize at a moment's notice.
What are some realizations that you are having from this exercise? What realities do you need to acknowledge about your self care?
Tommy Newberry defines feelings as "data you must filter
through your reason."
What happens when your way of reasoning is
Think about it this way:
Are there certain things you used to
believe to be true as a child that you no longer believe?What changed?
You had access to more information. Other people have different experiences than you shaping them and causing them to form different opinions, have different outcomes in their lives. You begin to widen the view of your feelings. Possibly noticing how they can control you... give you misinformation.
Is there a decision you need to make that your feelings are not lining up
Where are you experiencing the discontent?
Is there a story that you are
choosing to tell yourself? Is there new information that has come your way that you have turned a blind eye to?
Have you thought about your fears lately.What really hinders you from changing
something in your life or leaving a situation that is destructive or moving
into a new thing that you have been wanting to do. Moving toward the place you have been meaning to go.
Many times our choices are draped in
fear.We can agree that fear will always
be with us, right? But I wonder if the same
fears that drive you today are the ones that drove you 1 year ago? 5 years
Take some time over the next few
days and really process this:
fears have a common theme?
evolved over the years?
Do you see any
progression in the fears you face today vs a year ago?
Do they revolve around a particular person's expectations of you?
I remember an episode of a show called Little House on the Prairie
where a father was reprimanding his daughter for something she had done and he
said these words, YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW. Later in life when I read the verse in
the bible my mind immediately flashed back to this memory and all I could
think was how careful I needed to be because all my bad decisions will
come back and get me.
Many times that is
true of course though thank God that He has extended to me tons of grace where that
is not always the case.I started
thinking that maybe just maybe good things sown will reap good benefits and
what if I extend that realization to good thoughts leading to positive outcomes.Maybe there is something to be said
about making a shift mentally first which might elicit a subsequent change in the
outcome I will experience later.
this to be true when I have facing a difficult task that needs to be done
which I know will be a benefit to future opportunities that come my way.
This week bring the reaping and sowing philosophy into one area in your life which you are experiencing frustration. Take a moment to really pay attention to all the thoughts surrounding the situation including feelings of helplessness and despair. Decide on one or two little adjustments in your perspective on how to handle the circumstance.
Really take some time to think about this
and come up with 4 or 5 characteristics of this person.
Here is what I see:
a quite confidence
a sense of peace
in their own skin
grace under pressure
What I find about my list is that this is not something you
necessarily pick up on immediately.You
have got to spend a little time with someone in order to really gauge these any genuine qualities. There needs to be a relationship. Some people can initially come across as confident but you find later on that there are some contradicting qualities that rise to the surface like insecurity.Someone so polished on the outside can really be hanging on by a thread in their life when it
comes to decisions they need to make but are afraid to step into.
What about you makes you feel irresistible? What qualities would you like to cultivate more to ground you into your most irresistible
Where does the sense of lack in your life come from?
I am a list maker.You can always find me putting together a
list of pros and cons when I have to make a tough decision.I got to thinking about how grounded I feel
when I take the time to do that. I wonder if maybe this might be a valuable
practice to put in place when I feel discontent showing up in my overall
outlook on life.
Take the time to really
gauge where the sense of despair is coming from.Is it from your health? your job? your
relationships? your friendships?In the
midst of taking the time to do this you will also recognize the areas that are
quite good right now and it might offer a sense of empowerment for the tough
choices you need to make.
Do you have mental discipline? Meaning do you allow every
thought that comes into your head run rampant without some sort of censoring process?
If these thoughts were not censored, what kind of feelings did they manifest?
Take some time today to really
pay attention to your thoughts.
Do they leave you feeling hopeless?
Did they inspire to act on new ideas?
Fill you with
It is amazing how powerful these
little silent opinions about your life can be. Left unchecked, they can be dream killers.
How do you take thought
captive? You hold it up to the light of
reality and assess whether it is grounded in any basis of fact. Is it true or is this something someone has placed on me? Possibility it is a limiting thought that I am placing on myself as a safety net to resist change.
Really pay attention today to the feelings your thoughts bring up and how they may be dictating the quality of your life.